The Ramblings of Miss Pissykitty

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   Financially, we’re screwed. We all know women suffer from a wage gap, but that gap widens once women become mothers — even more if they have the audacity to be single mothers, or non-white. A Cornell University study showed that a child-free woman is twice as likely to be hired as a mother with an identical resume, and is offered about $11,000 more in starting salary. We’re the only industrialized nation without paid maternity leave, and national child care costs are through the roof. At home, it’s not much better. According to a 2008 study from the University of Michigan, when you get a husband, you also get seven extra hours of housework a week (whereas when men get married, they lose an hour of housework), and mothers do on average of 18 more hours a week of housework than fathers.

   Then, of course, there’s the social pressure: Are you breastfeeding? Co-sleeping? Baby-wearing? (Though so long as you’re not Tiger Mothering, you may be safe.)

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   Jessica Valenti, Why Mom Is Miserable (2011)

   Yet another reason why feminists are SEXIEST.

   Oh shut the fuck up. Women without kids are hired because they aren’t taking time off all the time because their brat is sick, or leaving early because Susie has a recital or Jimmy has soccer. And don’t tell me how YOU work 90 hours a week, or YOU and YOUR friends work two jobs and never take days off. There is enough evidence to show that you are the exception.

   You wanted the spawn, and if you didn’t, abortions are 500 bucks. So don’t complain to those of us with our priorities in order about your inability to get a job that works around your reproductive choices. That’s not how business works.

   (via hugparty)

   Really? Really? Women don’t deserve to have a job and be paid the same as everyone else just because they’re mothers? Women take off work for their kids mostly for reasons due to institutionalized sexism.

   • It’s implicit that your husband’s job is more important. He probably earns more (for reasons including, but not limited to, the fact that he’s a man and not a mother)
   • Women are expected to be the caregivers, whether they like it or not
   • Workplaces generally don’t offer childcare and the government keeps defunding programs for reduced-cost childcare

   And you don’t even address the housework thing. Eighteen more hours a week picking up after everyone else is kind of a big deal. And why is the woman doing so much more housework, even when her and her husband both have jobs? Hint: institutionalized sexism.

   So don’t dismiss this entire problem as “Pshh, women and their fucking kids.” People are allowed to become parents. It may not be the choice you make, but saying “You’ll be less likely to get a job, and if you do get it, you’ll be paid less, so DEAL WITH IT, guess you should have thought of that before BREEDING” is pretty hurtful to the many, many women out there who dare to dream of a world where they can have children AND a job. Crazy, I know!

   (via stfuconservatives)

   How am I sexist if I happen to be a child-free woman who gets the extra hours (and extra income) due to filling in for PARENTS who are on maternity leave, home with sick kids, off work due to lack of babysitter, etc.

   Oh, and I work/switch days on the family-type holidays voluntarily because 1.) double-time HELLO, and 2.) I don’t celebrate Christmas OR Easter, so why should *I* be the one to stay home and the parent co-worker be away from their family? I don’t find that to be very fair and I usually approach THEM with the switch so no one feels like they’re imposing on the single, child-free gal. I have to admit that seeing my co-worker’s face light up when she knows she’ll be home for her baby’s first Christmas… that’s an awesome thing. So is the double-time for me. It’s a lovely quid pro pro and we all benefit.

   Sure, I can get aggravated because sometimes it feels like I have to cover for everyone’s choice to have kids and it’s not acceptable for me to expect people to cover for my choices as a single adult (ie: too tired because I got in late from a road trip, the occasional brown-bottle flu)… but I don’t feel people should be penalized in the workplace for being a parent. I don’t want kids, but it’s not because of YAY FEMINISTS and shunning tradition, it’s just because… I simply never wanted to have a baby and raise a child and because of YAY FEMINISTS I know that’s OK.

   If anything… I don’t know HOW the women do it when they work, raise kids, and go to school. I can’t even get the swing of the work-and-school thing down pat despite being at it non-stop since 2004.

   Feminists should support women to be the woman they want to be, the mother they want to be, and give their sisters the unconditional support in their drive to have it all.

   (Source: , via stfuconservatives)

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       i think the worst part is the “only industrialized nation without paid maternity leave”

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